Why I smiled…

As I look out the balcony at my domestic assistant as she leaves me for the holidays and of course for greener pastures (she won’t be returning), I smile.

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Life lessons from Candy Crush!

Yes! you heard right…

For those who don’t know, Candy Crush is a game. Check the apps store on your device for more info.

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I am personally open to learning from just about anything… from movies, to random things, to nature , from conversations, anything and of course games: candy crush.
I am one of the late joiners to the world of candy crush but nonetheless i have welcomed and accepted this game as my break-in- transmission tool. Starting from level 1 to level 309 ( I know you are already at level 1500 but did you learnt what I learnt?)
Here are 3 lessons about life I picked from playing Candy crush.

1. Every game has to be challenging to be worth playing. Too easy: Not interested. Too hard: not fun. Challenging: Yes.


So if life were a challenging game worth my time, would I always aim to win at the very 1st round? No. Not always, else I’d  think it was too easy and lose interest. But how come we always expect things to be easy-peasy with life, and we complain at the first attempt at losing – #food4thot


2. It is not over until it is over! There are times where you have only 2 or 3 moves and you are still way behind your goal of either clearing jellies or bringing down fruits – and you just know that there is no way you can win the game, but all of a sudden you play just one move and everything else begins to align and you make only one or two moves and you finish the game colorfully! For me, it’s just intriguing. I have repeated such levels and found out that the game was created in such a way to work with the player’s zeal or maybe belief. If i continued with the hope that miracles could happen, then colorful miracles happen, but if I give up in the last few strides becoming overwhelmed by how impossible it is to still meet my target, then I lose.


Just imagine if we were always unshaken in our belief that it is not over until it is over! And we held that belief to the very end every time…

3. Time doesn’t control us, we control time: Now there are some time bombs which have time slots allotted to them which countdown as you play and explodes when it gets to zero.

The first time i encountered this level, i felt cheated and was upset at how quickly i had to finish the game to avoid the bomb exploding during the game and abruptly ending my session without me winning.  It took several frustrating plays and a relaxed me to understand that I, as a matter of fact controlled the  bombs, I just needed to change my perspective to seeing the time bombs as moves-bombs (meaning instead of thinking about how fast I needed to go, I starting thinking about how strategic i needed to play).

Sometimes that pain point just needs you to get a new perspective about it.


I hope you are relaxing this break. Be open to learning even in your most relaxed moments.

Happy Easter.
Tosan A.

Women: made for more than the ‘other’ room

I came across this book when I was on maternity leave with my first child, wondering if the workplace would still need me when I get back or if it was worth it to leave my bundle of joy for the hustle of work. It’s been 4 years since then and I am still growing strong in the workplace which may not have happened if I hadn’t read this book. It is for women who want to make impact and men who want to support that vision – Tosan A.



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Leadership lessons for CEOs from Queen Elizabeth 1



ELIZABETH 1 CEO: Strategic lessons from the leader who built an empire/ ALAN AXELROD/ PRENTICE HALL PRESS/2000/274PAGES

To be a king and wear a crown is a thing more glorious to them that see it than it is pleasant to them that bear it – All leaders would know that.

Elizabeth 1 CEO discusses the leadership and business management lessons that can be learnt from the Elizabethan era. In an era of male chauvinism, betrayals, sabotage, religious crisis, and easy/ flimsy executions (beheading), the survival and leadership lessons used by Elizabeth 1 are still very useful in today’s business scenes.

The author used a lot of stories and incidences that span throughout Elizabeth’s life and reign to explain different concepts which she used to build her empire which was in a very bad shape prior to her ascension to the throne. He sometimes used the Queen’s words and interpreted it to modern English – very necessary, before explaining the rationale behind her words.

Elizabeth knew how to keep her head. It was not by defiance, but by strength of character, a refusal to be intimidated, and a choice never to panic.

It was interesting to go back in time to read stories from the 15th and 16th centuries and still get such deep and relevant lessons which can easily be applied today. Better still, to look at Elizabeth as a CEO may seem a bit different but a closer look at her reign would guide you to know that most leaders are leaders everywhere, you only just changed their terrain.

The wisdom she exuded, her knack for knowledge and her decision to constantly surround herself with scholars and very learned advisers, the brand image of a virgin Queen she worked hard at creating and maintaining, her negotiation and put-it-in-writing attitude, how she ruled in an era where someone was shocked that the Queen was a woman! Are all lessons for CEOs of today and the future.

Create your self-image or others will create one for you.

The book holds lots of leadership lessons for every CEO out there, whether for a small business or a large one; understanding that leaders face similar problems is a given. Some of the standout lessons are;


Learning how to respond to challenges to your authority: In a bid to be open and to get varying views to make a decision, a leader sometimes finds her authority challenged? How would Elizabeth handle that?

Each leader must decide to what degree he can afford to allow his leadership to be challenged. When it is appropriate to bend, to compromise with challengers? And when it is necessary to control them, to limit them, and even to fire them.

Decide in what areas you want input from others, including discussion and debate, but decide as well just where your word must be law. Then hold to this and make no apology for it. It is your responsibility.

…however, they are attended to, they must be attended to rather than be ignored in the hope that they will just go away. And somewhere, at least in the mind of the manager, the executive or the CEO, a line must be drawn defining the limit of flexibility and compromise.

In dealing with people: As much as possible the Queen advised leaders to communicate directly and often with their subordinates to prevent distortion of information which occurs after it has passed through various ranks and people. She cited the case of the Bible which was widely read yet variously interpreted and wildly distorted (the religious crisis for which should be the central worship style for England – Catechism or Protestanism was one of the major reasons for unrest). Leaders are also reminded to be a bit flexible when dealing with people with respect to policies and regulations as they are meant to guide and should not be absolute.

To adhere rigidly to a set of principles, is to ignore, deny the nature of any human business.

Effective leaders put issues of ‘universal humanity’ ahead of blind obedience to rules, regulations, and prescribed procedure.

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Be the Boss: Ultimate authority, Ultimate responsibility.

Being the boss requires that you be ready to step on some toes and make some people unhappy because most times people don’t even know what they want. You must be willing to make unpleasant but necessary decisions when needed.

Let’s face it, most business organizations are not democracies and cannot be run as such, We may espouse various systems of participatory management, team structures and flexible hierarchies, but when it comes down to it, managers are NOT elected by the employees they lead, and sometimes-maybe even often -managers and other business leaders must make unpopular decisions. They must be willing to ‘discontent a number’.

Leaders must create an environment that allows him to make unpopular decisions and still remain viable as a leader.

Tosan’s take: This was a breather from serious reading. I loved reading the stories per topic/sub and I did get a good understanding of her time without taking a history class. Instead, I got a combined class in history and leadership in one. It is a lovely read and a good dimension to a popular political era. I still don’t know how she was able to manage the pressure of being unmarried throughout her reign of 45years (maybe cos she didn’t have mothers like ours) despite many attempts to ‘force’ and even manipulate her to get married whether for political or religious alliances – thinking out loud. My major take away from this book is simply put the buck stops here!

What I ‘saw’ in the match between Barca and PSG


A lot of us watched the match and most of us saw Barca do what they know how to do best. Someone saw something else which we can all take a cue from… You should read this whether you agree with the scores, the referee’s position or not – Tosan A.


What I learnt from Barca’ s comeback. There’s a lot to learn from Barca’s historic comeback. Trailing 4-0 from the first leg, they needed to score at least 5 to go through. In the course of the game the opposition got 1 goal to worsen Barca’s situation. The score was now 5-3 on aggregate. Barca […]

via THE EPIC COMEBACK!  — Always Walk On The Clouds!

How a cluttered desk affects your mind



A lot of things fight for our emotional space, attention in our minds and thoughts. While some thoughts are welcome, others are draining. Just the thought of that person, undone task, disorganised desk, incomplete project or even just a promise not kept could literarily take a huge piece of our emotions and occupying lots of space in our minds making us stressed, unhappy or even guilty.

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Two down! boom!


It’s the end of another lovely month (February)! It’s been power packed and full! but I’m glad it’s one more down (decided not to put the number of months to go…). Thanks to my blog followers who take time out of their busy schedules to read my posts and share. You guys keep me going. Thanks.

A brief recap if you missed any post this month;



Can you describe yourself to a child or someone who isn’t particular about your educational or professional achievements? Describe yourself gives you a starting point. I got a comment from Yewande which sums up the impact of this post.

This is so true. A friend asked me once to write 100 achievements starting from age 6.

Believing it will be easy peasy, I set out to start only to get stuck after writing 15 achievements in 1 hour so thanks a lot Tosan, I now know how to go about it. Good job.


To be big or to be great? tries to open our minds to our options as business owners – Is Go big or Go home the only option? This is what Humble though of it;

Great! I admire how you took your time to break things down.

It is true that while our individual views at the so called “small giants” insinuates that they are “local champs”. On the contrary, it could be that the driver’s mission/goal is/was to remain small but great.

It buttressed further in suggesting that there is need to draft Mission and Vision Statements for our business ventures. And should not be afraid to remain small giants if that was it’s original intent.

Thanks Tosan

Turn on the passion is my first short story, we learn a lot from things not even related to what is happening in the immediate. The hectic life of a wife & mom of two teaches us a thing or two on how to pursue our goals.

The New Age Seller redefines the idea of selling. In today’s economy where price hikes are the norm, This would help you get the desired results that keep you selling even when all else fails.

Who’s excited about March! I am!


Looking forward to reading, reviewing and sharing from these two books.

Learning from these women looks like fun… Be sure to tag along (click link to follow blog by email) to get the post fresh off the mill. 

Have a lovely march into MARCH!


Tosan A.

The New Age Seller

We are all salesmen whether our jobs explicitly says it or not, we are always selling or trying to sell something, we sell ourselves using our C.Vs to employers, we are selling the gospel to others, we always selling. Duct tape selling discusses the new rules to selling in the 21st century – the information age where brochures are almost extinct and sales people have to knock harder and on more doors to get even an audience much less close a saleTosan A.

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To be big or to be great?

‘Small Giants’ goes against everything I have ever heard about business growth, and It provides answers to numerous unanswered questions about how the future of a business can be decided. It reminds owners of the power they have concerning the future of their businesses – the power to CHOOSE – Tosan A. Continue reading “To be big or to be great?”